THE WEDDING VOW
I take you to be my wedded spouse. To have and to
hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for
poorer, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish 'till death do
us part. And hereto I pledge you my faithfulness.
Do you remember saying these words? Sometimes life gets in the way of living day to day. We forget what we promise...faithfulness. What is faithfulness? Devotion, trustworthiness, fidelity. How can you divorce, if you are faithful?
God allowed divorce (Matthew 19: 8) because of YOUR hardened heart....selfishness....not putting your spouse before yourself. If you don't put your spouse before your own selfishness, how, then, do you treat God? Maybe it is time to examine all of our relationships, starting with the one with God.
After initially publishing this post, it occurred to me that maybe I should share a few suggestions to help keep the marriage together.
The most common sited cause of marital problems is money. May I suggest that the weekend after your anniversary, you sit down and review your financial state. Whether you have separate accounts or a joint account, all of the finances need to be reviewed. That will identify any issues before they become too big to manage. If the spouse who pays the bills needs help, this will identify it. If they are doing a jam-up job, this is the time to praise their skills.
If there are issues identified, schedule this review monthly until the problem is resolved, then go back to the annual review.
You can discuss any issues you may have identified during the annual review. Maybe this will keep the lines of communication open and the stress level low.
Marriage was intended to be a lifetime commitment. It takes work and a lot of patience. It takes keeping your spouse's needs before your own.
You are welcome to leave your comment.
You are also invited to visit Oma at http://omaspolitics.blogspot.com and http://omaslife.blogspot.com.
Do you remember saying these words? Sometimes life gets in the way of living day to day. We forget what we promise...faithfulness. What is faithfulness? Devotion, trustworthiness, fidelity. How can you divorce, if you are faithful?
God allowed divorce (Matthew 19: 8) because of YOUR hardened heart....selfishness....not putting your spouse before yourself. If you don't put your spouse before your own selfishness, how, then, do you treat God? Maybe it is time to examine all of our relationships, starting with the one with God.
After initially publishing this post, it occurred to me that maybe I should share a few suggestions to help keep the marriage together.
The most common sited cause of marital problems is money. May I suggest that the weekend after your anniversary, you sit down and review your financial state. Whether you have separate accounts or a joint account, all of the finances need to be reviewed. That will identify any issues before they become too big to manage. If the spouse who pays the bills needs help, this will identify it. If they are doing a jam-up job, this is the time to praise their skills.
If there are issues identified, schedule this review monthly until the problem is resolved, then go back to the annual review.
You can discuss any issues you may have identified during the annual review. Maybe this will keep the lines of communication open and the stress level low.
Marriage was intended to be a lifetime commitment. It takes work and a lot of patience. It takes keeping your spouse's needs before your own.
You are welcome to leave your comment.
You are also invited to visit Oma at http://omaspolitics.blogspot.com and http://omaslife.blogspot.com.
